When my older sister told me I should start a blog two years ago, I laughed out loud. C’mon, why would anyone want to read about my life? I’m nothing special. She pointed out that a blog would be a great outlet for my love of writing, design, and fashion then added, “I’d follow your blog!” I reminded her that I’d need more than one follower and family didn’t count. That was the end of the conversation.
But the idea remained as a constant itch in the back of my mind. I secretly opened a free account on WordPress, had a blog name and layout, and knew of the general topics I wanted to write about. But I couldn’t publish it quite yet because a couple things were missing. What I was missing though, couldn’t be found in the physicality of the blog itself. They were missing from me: confidence, initiative, and motivation. As a result, my unpublished blog sat hidden on the internet, away from all critical eyes that would make me feel vulnerable and dumb.
I eventually came to acquire these missing pieces – but only after some key self reflections that came later. It started when my two close friends, Jamie and Abby came to my home for a casual wine night. Little did I know that what started as a “basic girl” kind of night with wine, chocolate and cozy throw blankets would turn into an inspirational goal-sharing session that pushed me to pursue the dream I had thrown aside for two years.
This was from said night ↓
Over a homemade dinner of lettuce wraps and fried rice, Jamie announced that she was taking the GMAT. Though she wasn’t quite sure whether she wanted to get her MBA yet, she was forcing herself out of her comfort zone and opening the door for the opportunity. Abby and I were so proud of her and it made us reflect on what our own goals were too.
In that moment, I realized I hadn’t set a big goal for myself in a while. In high school my goal was to get into a great college. In college my goal was to land a great full-time job after graduation. And now that I had secured a great corporate marketing job, moved to a new city, and bought my first home, I realized I had gotten too comfortable. I needed to be invigorated again by a new big goal. I had to push myself out of my complacent state of being okay with Netflix and Chill every night after work.
“I kind of want to start a blog,” I blurted out. I immediately regretted sharing this secret dream of mine – mostly because I was pretty sure it was never going to happen. But as Abby and Jamie excitedly asked me questions about the visions I had for my blog, I realized I already had all my plans mapped out in my head. I just had to start making these daydreams a reality.
What was I afraid of? What was holding me back? I was afraid of failing to get followers. I was hesitant to put in the work needed to learn technical blogging basics. I was scared of coming across vain. Once I put my fears out in the open, I realized that none were good excuses.
Afraid of no followers? You don’t need followers to write.
Hesitant to put in the work? Stop being a lazy bum.
Scared of coming across vain? Who the f cares? (Besides, everyone’s a little vain.)
These were the critical self reflections that helped me gain the confidence, initiative, and motivation I needed to give myself a kick in the butt and get moving on my blog.
So I started. And that was everything.
I thought of a blog name, bought a domain name, and got working. I’m definitely over-simplifying the process of starting a blog. S*** was a lot of work! But I don’t want to bore you with all the details of researching blog platforms, learning basic CSS, yadda yadda yadda.
And here we are. I don’t know much about blogging yet, but I sure am about to learn. That’s all part of the fun right? Follow me in my blogging journey as I document my travels, life experiences, and everyday learnings in my pursuit of a vibrant life – one outfit at a time.